This is actually a very common question. HIS issue becomes YOUR issue because you love him and likely want to try to make the relationship work. You are NOT getting help for HIS issue. You are getting help for YOU! Healing Betrayed Hearts focuses on you--not HIM. You will discover things about yourself you never realized. You deserve to heal. You deserve to be okay again. You deserve your life back...regardless of what he does.
♡DOES IT MATTER IF I'M DIVORCED OR GETTING A DIVORCE?
Whether or not you remain in the relationship with the addict or man who betrayed you sexually does NOT determine your need for support. You still need to heal. You need to learn specific tools which Healing Betrayed Hearts offers that are designed to put your life back together. What you lived through will impact current and/or future relationships. Unfortunately, many women don't take time to work on themselves after a relationship with a sex addict, and as a result, find themselves in relationship after relationship which is unfulfilling and ultimately fails. Make sure you are in a healthy place during and/or after the divorce.
♡HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO HEAL?
It is important to keep in mind that healing is a process and not an event. Unfortunately, there is no magic wand or time capsule to take you back to what life was like before his disclosure. Many counselors and sexual betrayal specialists say it takes three to five years for the spouse or partner of a sex addict to fully heal. Three to five years seems like such a long time when you're hurting! No one wants to endure this kind of pain for that long. It is absolutely impossible to predict the exact amount of time necessary to fully heal. However, in our experience, women who utilize the tools we teach and truly begin to work on themselves (instead of focusing on what he's doing in his recovery) always heal faster.
♡WHAT CAN I EXPECT FROM A group, WORKSHOP or individual session?
THERE IS HOPE, THERE IS HEALING and YOU ARE NOT ALONE are designed to:
Validate your feelings. Offer effective coping tools. Discuss what to expect. Teach you how to stop the madness.
Healing Betrayed Hearts recognizes that while telling your story goes a long way toward healing, not everyone has someone to tell. Isolation and shame rock your world, oftentimes stalling or actually preventing healing. Each service is designed with you in mind. Whether you prefer to meet weekly, only once or individually, we have something for you.
♡AM I EVER GOING TO FEEL NORMAL AGAIN?
We believe that NORMAL is nothing more than a setting on a dryer. Aspiring for normalcy is fruitless as it doesn't exist. However, the goal is to get you to a place where you are truly your best self. You are self-aware, and not only function, but are also productive, and find joy in life again. We do NOT focus on him and his healing. Healing Betrayed Hearts is for women and meant to offer validation, support, and encouragement for your situation. We have been where you are and have come out the other side better because of it. You will too. You wait. You watch. You'll see.
♡WHy do i even care that he's watching porn?
Society says it's normal. Society says it's okay. Society says it's no big deal. But, society isn't inside your heart, right? It is natural for a woman whose spouse or partner is a sex addict to feel a multitude of emotions. Everything from sadness and rejection to anger and thoughts of revenge. It is almost impossible to prevent feelings of violation. It's as if you're standing on the sidelines saying, "Pick me! Pick me!", but he chooses images of (or worse) someone else instead. Beating yourself up for caring exacerbates the problem in that you not only have to recover from the feelings associated with the betrayal, but also with the guilt over feeling them.
♡WHat is healing betrayed hearts' refund policy?
Your satisfaction with our Program or Service is important to us. Yet, because of the extensive time, effort, preparation and care that goes into creating and/or providing our Programs, Services and Program Materials, we have a no return no refund policy. Unless otherwise provided by law, you acknowledge that we do not offer refunds for any portion of your payment for any of our Programs and Services, and no refunds will be provided to you at any time. By using and/or purchasing any of our Programs, Services or Program Materials, you understand and agree that all sales are final and no refunds will be provided.
♡WHat is a betrayal recovery specialist?
A betrayal recovery specialist is a woman who is (or was) in a relationship with a sex addict or man who has betrayed her sexually. This experience coupled with training through Healing Betrayed Hearts enable her to offer unique insights about how to put the pieces back together one step at a time. It is important to note that services purchased from Healing Betrayed Hearts are NOT counseling, psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, or any other form of mental health treatment, care or therapy. Rather, real-life experience gives these women specific information likely unavailable in textbooks and certifications.
♡WHAT is the difference between a workshop and a small group?
Both are intentionally kept small and informal and seating is limited. Workshops are single sessions while small groups meet weekly. Workshops cover several topics while small groups cover one per session. Workshops include beverages and lunch, a workbook and private Facebook group access.
♡WHERE IS HEALING BETRAYED HEARTS LOCATED?
Healing Betrayed Hearts is in Covington, Kentucky, which is located at the convergence of the Ohio and Licking Rivers. Less than two miles in either direction, Cincinnati, Ohio, lies to its north across the Ohio; and Newport, Kentucky, to its east across the Licking. In an effort to protect our clients, Healing Betrayed Hearts does not disclose its exact physical address until a service is purchased.